Kink and Fetish Dating in the UK

What we will not tell you

We are not going to give you a member count. Nobody in this category can prove theirs, including us, and a figure we cannot show you is true is not worth printing. We are not going to claim to be the biggest or the best British kink site either. What we will tell you is what the site does, what it costs, and what it cannot promise you, and our about page says that in full.

If you already know the scene

You know the difference between a kink and a fetish, and between a dom and a top, and you are checking whether we do too. Read BDSM dating in the UK for how we handle roles and negotiation, and BDSM roles explained if you want to see the vocabulary laid out properly.

If you are still working out what you want

If you have never said any of this out loud before, you are not late to it and you are not the only one. Kinks and fetishes explained is written for exactly this, in plain British English, with no snobbery and no assumption that you already know the words.

If you are a woman or a couple reading this

You will get more messages than you want and some of them will ignore what your profile says. You can filter who reaches you, you can block without explaining yourself, and you never owe anyone a reason. See kink and fetish dating for women for what that looks like in practice, and for the one thing kink specifically gets wrong that a mainstream site does not have to think about.

Consent comes first here, not as an afterthought

Negotiation happens before anything else, while everyone is clothed and sober. You agree what is on, what is off, and what the word is that stops it. A limit is not an opening position. Read consent and negotiation for how we describe it in full, and staying safe for the two things that go wrong most often once you start messaging.

What the site does, and who is on it

Our features page sets out exactly what you can do without paying, which is most of it, and what the VIP and VIP+ tiers add on top. Our community page covers the part that matters more than any feature list: what this community expects of people, from negotiation before anything happens to what occurs when somebody ignores a stated limit.

Kink dating near you

Registrations here are concentrated in Greater London to a degree no other region comes close to, so that is where our first city page goes. Everywhere else is covered honestly rather than with a page we cannot back up.